These leadership commandments were written by Kent M. Keith.

Some really good thoughts to apply to our own leadership styles and attitudes as well as to share with our coaching staffs and players.

1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.

I am not sure where I found this, and don’t agree with all of it, but I think that there are some good thoughts that coaches can use for themselves, their staffs, and their teams.

A leader…

1. has to have ABSOLUTE INTEGRITY, or it does not matter what else he or she has.

2. has to be WILLING AND ABLE TO DO WORK, or it does not matter what else he or she has.

3. has to be OBJECTIVE. If an executive could be described in one word, this would be it.

4. has to have LEADERSHIP, which is hard to define, but may be described as that quality in a person which makes others want to do what the leader wants them to do.

5. has COURAGE . I don’t want to get courage and bravery mixed up. If a neighbor has a mean dog and you are not afraid to go in his yard, this is bravery. If you are afraid but go in the yard anyway, this is courage. Courage is what makes someon buy natural resources for the company’s use in poor times when acreage,or leases are cheap.

6. has IMAGINATION. Most of the good things civilization has achieved are the result of somebody’s seeing, in his mind’s eye, how to do something better, or make something better. Without imagination an executive cannot foresee the good things the future may hold. Without imagination he is not able to put himself in another man’s place, which he must do.

7. MUST DELEGATE AUTHORITY AND RESPONSIBILITY if he does not do this, there is not enough time to accomplish a great deal.

8. MUST CHECK, AFTER THIS DELEGATION, TO SEE THAT RESULTS ARE OBTAINED. The leader must have progress reports not only for his own information but also to gauge personnel in preparation for his next delegation of authority.

9. MUST EVALUATE HIS TIME. A busy person does not have time to explain carefully a directive to a subordinate, and in most cases tell him the reason why he wants it done. Otherwise, it is likely to get all snarled up and have to be handled twice which a busy person does not have time to do.

10. DOES THE IMPORTANT IN MOST CASES, INSTEAD OF THE URGENT. It is so easy to decide and handle the easy ones. So often the temptation is to put aside a difficult decision until the easy ones are finished, in the hope that some additional easy ones come up to further postpone the important.

11. MUST PLAY NO FAVORITES. Anyone can do what they want with their own money. With the company’s money, there is no right to play favorites. The person who should be promoted is the person who is doing the job at the time better than others are doing theirs. If the word gets around that the executive plays no favorites, the personnel will naturally take pride in doing their jobs well, no matter how rarely they come in contact with the boss.

12. RECOGNIZES HIS/HER OWN WEAKNESSES AND SEEKS OR EMPLOYS ASSISTANCE IN THESE RESPECTS. The Great Creator has rarely produced a man without weaknesses. What often make a strong corporation is people of different but special talents accomplishing together and with the assistance of each other, more than any individual could accomplish alone.

13. TRIES TO HELP OTHERS OVERCOME THEIR WEAKNESSES AND COMPLIMENTS THEM ON THEIR GOOD TRAITS. The success of an organization is based to a large extent on loyalty and cooperation. A man might be the best coxswain in the world, but without the cooperation of the other men in his crew, the race could not be won.

14. IF SOMETHING TURNS OUT ESPECIALLY GOOD, THE LEADER FINDS SOMEONE IN THE ORGANIZATION TO SHARE THE CREDIT, IF SOMETHING GOES ESPECIALLY BAD, THE LEADER FINDS SOME WAY TO SHARE THE BLAME, You tell me who takes the responsibility for the errors and I will tell you who IS the boss,

15. MUST BE A GOOD LISTENER, I have a prayer “Oh Lord, let me know that I do not have to speak on every subject that is broached.”

16. MUST NOT TAKE HIMSELF or HERSELF TOO SERIOUSLY. I have never heard a leader criticized for taking their business too seriously. If the leader can do this, and not take himself or herself too seriously, she and her associates have a happier life.

17. MUST NOT ALLOW HERSELF TO BECOME DISCOURAGED. Even the inevitable can change from day to day, and persistence often accomplishes the seemingly impossible.

18. DOES WHAT HE SAYS HE IS GOING TO DO, EVEN IN A CASUAL STATEMENT. I know people who, if they told me casually, “I will write you a letter about that tomorrow,” and I didn’t receive the letter, I would send flowers. I would know they were dead.

19. MUST NOT MAKE AN UNQUALIFIED STATEMENT UNLESS SHE IS SUFFICIENTLY INFORMED ON FACTS. A statement may often be the basis of important action. If based on incomplete information, results may be disastrous.

20. MUST LET HIS STAFF KNOW THAT HE MEANS WHAT HE SAYS WHEN HE TELLS THEM THAT HE WANTS THEM TO DISAGREE WITH HIM WHEN THEY DO. Nearly every executive tells his staff he wants them to speak out when they disagree. He must convince them that he means what he says when he makes this statement for it is their duty to give him the benefit of their best judgment and experience. At the same time, disagreement does not absolve a man from giving his best efforts once a course of action is decided upon.

21. LIMITS HER NUMBER OF REASONS. One reason for a decision is better than several. If several reasons are given, and one of these, though not controlling, is disproved it can make awkward or tear down her whole presentation.

22. MUST NOT GET MAD UNLESS HE DECIDES TO. There are times, like a boxer working himself up to a fighting pitch, when an executive has to show a flash of fire to carry or arouse people out of their apathy. But this must be a deliberate, and not impulsive, action.

23. RECOGNIZES THE UNUSUAL FROM THE ROUTINE, AND HANDLES THE UNUSUAL IN A SPECIAL MANNER. Many leaders adequately handle the routine every day, and the business gets along all right. Sometimes even a casual request, due to its source, merits uusual handling.

24. MUST NOT BE OVERLY SUBJECT TO FLATTERY. Star dust blinds more people than sand.

25. MUST STEEP HERSELF IN THE FACTS, BUT MUST RECOGNIZE THAT A TIME COMES WHEN SHE MUST DEFER RESEARCH AND MAKE THE DECISION, So often voluminous research is acquired. For what purpose? To acquire additional voluminous research. The difficult, the decision, is postponed.

26. MUST LIKE PEOPLE. A man who does not like people multiplies his work and minimizes his effectiveness.

27. SHOULD HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR. Without this I doubt if a leader can endure, with good grace, the rugged path that accompanies accomplishment.

1. Attentiveness to Detail You must prepare to win in order to be a winner. Failure to prepare is preparing to fail.
2. Impartiality This is a must, but you must remember that you must not treat everyone alike as they are all different. Give each one the treatment earned and deserved.
3. Teaching Skill It isn’t enough that you know the game, you must be able to teach it. Follow the laws of learning.
4. Discipline Most essential for proper concentration and group organization.
5. Affability The coach must be of an affable disposition because of the various groups with who he must associate.
6. Forcefulness You must be firm without being bullheaded.
7. Alertness Constant observation of all going on around and about are necessary for improved learning and decision making.
8. Optimism The pessimist isn’t likely to produce a confident team that will play near to their full capability.
9. Desire to Improve Lack of ambition will result in complacency and laziness.
10. Vision A Picture of the possible must be shown to your players to provide a goal for them.
11. Consideration For Others You must be truly considerate of others if you expect them to be considerate of you. You must listen to them if you want them to listen to you.
12. Resourcefulness You must be ever ready to make necessary adjustments according to the situation and the personnel that you have available.
13. Cooperativeness An essential for all who work with others and are dependent on others in various ways.
14. Leadership Trust be commanded, not demanded. Others are working with you, not for you. Be interested in finding the best way rather than having your own way.
15. Industriousness There is no substitute for work. Worthwhile things should never be easy to attain.
16. Enthusiasm If you are to stimulate others, your heart must be in your work. Enthusiasm brushes off upon those with whom you come in contact.
17. Sympathy You must be truly interested in those under your supervision and be sympathetic with their problems.
18. Self-control Good judgment must be exercised in your decisions and they must be made through reason not emotion.
19. Sincerity Insincerity can be spotted very quickly and cause loss of respect.

This article was written by University of Washington women’s Basketball Coach Mike Neighbors and shared with his permission.

I have made slight editing changes to adapt the message to all professions, not just basketball coaching.

If you want to download the original pdf, you can click here: STOPlight Theory

As coaches, we strive daily for improvement in ourselves and in our athletes. This article outlines a system to use to be intentional about those efforts to improve.

I hope you can find a few ideas from the list that you can apply. In Mike’s words” “All of these things are just examples to choose from… You could NEVER do them all so don’t try…”

A good way to get started is to select one idea from each color (or come up with one that fits for you) to focus on throughout the day.

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THINGS I AM GOING TO STOP DOING: So many times in our day we make TO DO lists. It is just as important to have a list of things you WON’T DO! Those things vary for us all. Eliminating the distractions is vital to you making the most of your 24 hours in a day. Actually making a list of the things that WON’T do in your day to refer to throughout the day is a valuable tool. Examples: won’t check email until certain time, won’t “surf” the web until x number of things are done, won’t focus on anything that doesn’t effect your job until after the day’s most important task is completed, won’t focus on my “turkey’s” until my “eagles” are fed, won’t go home until my urgent pile is cleared, won’t go to lunch alone, won’t use sarcasm, won’t let things I can’t control effect the things I can, won’t resent others success, won’t fear failure, won’t be afraid of hearing bad news, won’t try to make everyone happy.

THINGS I AM GOING TO CONTINUE DOING: Identify the things that are positively impacting your day that you need to continue doing but might need to do so cautiously. These things can be positives when executed correctly but can border on negatives if you over/under utilize. Examples: Seek out people with opposite opinions, argue/debate/disagree, read and write, use data to make calculated decisions, telling others the truth, learn about leadership techniques but don’t be afraid to be different (Muppets principle), be unconventional, lead by insuring others can deal with adversity, focus on bright spots rather than total focus on deficient areas.

THINGS I AM GOING TO START DOING: List actionable things you want to introduce into your daily routine that will positively impact your 24 hours. Examples: Speak in images, use least invasive correction that is needed, surround yourself with smart people that challenge you, earn trust, whisper criticism/shout praise, confront then move on, build relationships, show people how much you care rather than how much you know, Separation in the preparation, teach rather than coach in practice, coach rather than teach off the court, REHEARSE things more often in practice, focus on being better rather than being good, trust “blink” decisions, get all the facts, simplify, be productive rather than busy, spend time with the right people, take people with you.