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Is it Okay to Pray with Your Team?

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This article was provided by Athletic Management
Is it okay for coaches to pray with their team? Can you question an athlete about his or her religious beliefs? What if pregame rituals have a religious component? Today’s athletic director must be well-versed on the fine line separating church and state.
By Greg Scholand

Greg Scholand is an Assistant Editor at Athletic Management. He can be reached at: [email protected].

If anyone in East Brunswick, N.J., wondered whether a coach praying with his team could be a hot-button issue, they don’t wonder anymore. In October, East Brunswick High School Head Football Coach Marcus Borden made headlines by resigning his coaching position after being told he could no longer lead his team in pre-game prayers. Two weeks later, he returned to his coaching job and immediately sued the school district over his right to pray with the team. Since then, the school has drawn national attention from media outlets and political activists of all stripes. And East Brunswick has become the latest battleground in the fight over religion’s place in the educational arena.

Borden, of course, is not alone in his desire to pray with his players. Grant Teaff, Executive Director of the American Football Coaches Association, estimates that more than half of high school football coaches nationwide engage in some type of prayer with their teams. And college coaches in many different sports often openly profess their religious beliefs to their student-athletes.

The debate over the separation of church and state in America is as old as the country itself. And chances are, you’d prefer to keep your athletic program out of it. But in recent years, more and more programs are dealing with disputes on the topic. A source of team unity or turmoil, a legal liability, a moral dilemma, a public-relations tinderbox: religion in an athletic department can be all these things and more.

PART OF THE FABRIC
“There is a high degree of spirituality in sports, there’s no doubt,” says Todd Turner, Athletic Director at the University of Washington. “It’s an emotional enterprise. Those involved–coaches, athletes, and administrators–are often very introspective and focused, and they gravitate toward religion in the midst of their very competitive environment. And spirituality is such a personal issue, it can be difficult to regulate.”

“I think a real attraction is that it allows coaches and athletes to forge deeper relationships,” says Ian McCaw, Athletic Director at Baylor University, an institution affiliated with the Baptist church. “A student-athlete’s life is not just about playing their sport and going to class. When teams discuss spiritual and religious issues, student-athletes can see the big picture and know that the outcome of today’s game is only temporary–that there are more important things in their lives, including their relationship with God. A lot of coaches, particularly those who are religious themselves, want to encourage that.”

Team religiosity is often linked with more temporal benefits as well. Important values in team sports, such as self-discipline, sacrifice, and the ability to cope with adversity, can be easy for coaches and athletes to think about in religious terms. As one high school football coach in Clermont, Fla., explained to the Orlando Sentinel, “When you play for a higher power, you seem to play a little harder, run a little faster, and do things you normally wouldn’t do.”

In addition, helping athletes develop as people has always been part of the coach’s job description, and many see fostering spirituality as a step toward that goal. Clemson University Head Football Coach Tommy Bowden told the Anderson (S.C.) Independent Mail last year that the spiritual growth of his players is as important as their physical development. “We try to give those guys resources available in the weightroom, tutors, and academic help, and if they want to grow spiritually, we try to give them resources,” he said. “I think they need to have an opportunity to grow spiritually.”

Tradition also plays a large part. Borden’s defenders, for instance, point out that East Brunswick football coaches had been praying with players long before Borden took over the program more than 20 years ago. In Alabama, while defending his school’s broadcast of prayers over the loudspeaker before football games, Etowah High School Principal John Serafini told the Birmingham News, “Religion and football go hand-in-hand in this state. A prayer before a football game is part of Southern sports.”

WHAT’S THE PROBLEM?
If team prayers help build unity and character, and can even lead to a better effort on the field, why not do it? For one thing, the separation of church and state is part of the United States constitution. Those who oppose prayer in school settings believe that it violates the First Amendment, which states that “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof.” In practice, this means public institutions may not favor one religion over another, or promote religion in any way.

A main reason our laws do not allow religion at public institutions is to protect minority rights. When students who are not part of the majority religion are subject to discrimination, they have the right to sue their school. But, more often, student-athletes who feel alienated from a team because they have different religious beliefs simply leave the team or are dissuaded from trying out in the first place. They understand that they are not welcome.

In October, two weeks after being released from New Mexico State University’s football program, former NMSU leading rusher Muammar Ali filed a letter of complaint with the university alleging that he was the victim of religious discrimination. Ali, who is Muslim, claimed that Head Coach Hal Mumme regularly had players recite the Lord’s Prayer after practices and games, and when Ali and the team’s two other Muslim players prayed differently, Mumme asked them what they were doing. Afterward, Ali said that Mumme repeatedly questioned him about Islam’s ties to terrorism and Al-Qaeda, and that he was eventually barred from traveling with the team before finally being released.

A law firm hired by the university to investigate the claims ultimately concluded that the football program did not engage in religious discrimination. But the incident was a sizeable black eye for NMSU, and it brought to the forefront one of the serious consequences of mixing religion and athletics at a public institution: the potential for some athletes to be ostracized.

“People who bring lawsuits or speak up against prayer in a public school setting are typically concerned about an ongoing activity that reflects certain religious beliefs–usually those of the majority–which result in other people being made to feel like outsiders,” explains Alan Brownstein, Professor of Constitutional Law at the University of California-Davis and an expert in church-state separation issues. “An athlete shouldn’t be made to feel like a visitor in his or her own locker room simply because he or she holds different religious beliefs than most of the other players.”

In another instance, which was the subject of a federal court case in 1995 (Doe v. Duncanville Independent School District), a Texas high school basketball player who chose not to participate in team prayers was jeered by spectators at games, harassed by fellow students at her school, and even called a “little atheist” by one of her teachers. More recently, at East Brunswick High School, the North/South Brunswick Sentinel reported that the students who raised concerns about Borden’s prayers were “taunted and bullied by some of Borden’s staunchest supporters.” According to the paper, this occurred despite a meeting between the district superintendent and more than 300 people, including student-athletes and their parents, conducted to remind everyone that such actions wouldn’t be tolerated.

Clearly, people of minority faiths or no faith at all can be subject to overt mistreatment when religion takes a prominent place in an athletic program. And if they speak up about it, things can get even worse. Brownstein notes that cases involving prayer in public schools are sometimes brought by anonymous plaintiffs, (hence the frequent appearance of Doe in the case names) for fear of reprisal or public pressure to back down.

Beyond the threat of overt acts, subtle pressure to conform can also plague minority-faith athletes. “In a group dynamic, students are probably not going to want to opt out of something if everybody else is involved, even if they aren’t comfortable with it,” says Turner. “Just because no one is complaining, that doesn’t necessarily mean everything is alright.

“Coaches need to recognize their role as teachers and leaders of young people, and realize that they have a lot of influence over them,” Turner continues. “That carries with it the responsibility to have a non-threatening environment on their team, one where everyone feels welcome.”

FINE LEGAL LINES
For athletic directors trying to balance a majority-religion culture with the law, court decisions provide some direction. A landmark 1962 U.S. Supreme Court case, Engel v. Vitale, established an important guiding principle of church-state separation for public schools by declaring that teachers and school officials may not lead students in prayer, even if participation is voluntary. The following year, Abington Township School Distict v. Schempp declared organized Bible reading in public schools to be unconstitutional. And in 1971, Lemon v. Kurtzman established the “Lemon Test,” which mandates that all public school-sponsored activities have a secular purpose, neither advance nor inhibit religion, and not result in excessive entanglement between religion and government.

These decisions help to explain how the Establishment Clause–the part of the constitution’s First Amendment that affirms the separation of church and state–applies to public schools. They don’t, however, directly involve athletics. In 2000, the Supreme Court heard a case involving a Texas high school’s football pre-game prayers broadcast over the public address system at its stadium (Santa Fe Independent School District v. Doe), and in its ruling offered the most thorough guidance to date on where the legal lines are drawn around prayer and school sports.

The controversy began when some students and parents complained about prayer-related school district practices that they felt violated the Establishment Clause. One such practice involved a student chaplain delivering an “overtly Christian” prayer over the loudspeaker before each home football game. Before the case reached the Supreme Court, the district modified its policy, instituting an annual student vote to decide whether a prayer would be performed, and if so, electing someone to deliver it. It also replaced the word “prayer” with “invocation” in its policy. The district argued that because of these changes, the pre-game ritual was not a school-initiated religious endorsement, but rather an expression of free speech by the students.

The Supreme Court agreed to hear the case to determine whether the school was violating the Establishment Clause at football games. Its ruling addressed a key question: Did the pre-game invocation, even if approved by students and delivered by someone elected by the student body, constitute religious endorsement on the part of the school?

Understanding the concept of endorsement is critical to understanding the debate over prayer in public institutions. If students independently choose to initiate a prayer–in the locker room, before a team meal, or in the stands during a game–they are protected by the First Amendment’s Free Exercise Clause, which says government may not prohibit the free exercise of religion. If, however, the school is seen as endorsing that prayer, it violates the Establishment Clause.

“It can be helpful to think about this like poles on a continuum,” explains Brownstein. “At one end, you have school-directed prayer, and that’s clearly beyond what the constitution allows. A school or a coach cannot say ‘Let us pray’ and provide the words of the prayer. On the other end, what clearly is permissible is an individual student expressing a prayer or other religious sentiments of his or her own in the locker room before a game. That is a protected activity.”

The Supreme Court ruled 6-3 that the pre-game prayer over the loudspeaker was a violation of the Establishment Clause–that it was too close to the ‘Let us pray’ side of the continuum. In deciding that the practice constituted endorsement, the court rejected the idea that student involvement through voting absolved the district from its responsibility to not “coerce anyone to support or participate in a religious exercise.” As the majority opinion concluded: “These invocations are authorized by a government policy and take place on government property at government-sponsored school related events … the realities of the situation plainly reveal that [the district’s] policy involves both perceived and actual endorsement of religion.”

WHERE DOES THE COACH FIT IN?
The meaning of endorsement is also at the center of the Marcus Borden case. Borden, a 23-year coaching veteran, filed suit in November over a school policy that bars him from participating in his team’s voluntary student-led prayers before gameday meals and in the locker room prior to games. The district maintains that any participation on Borden’s part constitutes school endorsement, since he is a school employee. Borden’s lawyer, though, feels the school district is being too strict in its interpretation of the law.

“It’s true that if the government is seen as giving its imprimatur or endorsement to a prayer, or if the prayer is coerced, then there’s a problem,” says Ron Riccio, the former Dean of Seton Hall University Law School, who is representing Borden through Seton Hall’s Center for Social Justice. “But [Coach Borden] is not saying, ‘I want to practice my religion.’ His argument is, ‘My athletes want to pray and I’m the coach of the team, so I want to be there with them.’ There’s a gray area concerning what school employees can and cannot do while the students are praying. The case law says they can’t participate, but it doesn’t say exactly what that means.”

In Riccio’s view, Borden bowing his head in the cafeteria and taking a knee in the locker room isn’t about endorsing religion. It’s about respecting what the team has chosen to do, and also about honoring tradition. “In my opinion, football team prayer is an entirely unique context,” Riccio explains. “We’re talking about football tradition and culture–what it means to be on a football team and what it means to be a coach. It’s also about the example he’s setting and the values he’s trying to impart to his players.

“The prayers are a team activity, like going to camp or huddling before kickoff,” he continues. “If a reasonable observer wouldn’t see what he’s doing as promoting religion, why should he be excluded from this team activity?”

Until the case is resolved, Borden will follow district policy by standing quietly and not moving while his team offers its pre-game prayers. Riccio says he hopes the court decision will clear up some questions surrounding coaches and team prayer. “Our ultimate question is, where does the coach fit in?” he says. “Are coaches different from teachers? What message is being sent when the coach bows his head or bends his knee? Does that mean he’s praying? Does that mean the government is endorsing religion? Or does that mean he’s being a good football coach?”

TALKING ABOUT IT
For the athletic director concerned about a coach injecting religion into his or her team, broaching the subject can be difficult. Since it’s such a personal matter, there’s no single right approach. But administrators who have experience working with religious coaches offer a few suggestions for framing the discussion in a constructive way.

First, it’s important to communicate why the rights of all athletes must be respected and explain why certain practices can be problematic, even if no one has complained. A coach who has prayed with his team for many years might assume that everyone is fine with the practice, though in reality, the pressure to conform may keep athletes who are made uncomfortable from coming forward. It’s also essential for coaches to make it clear to athletes that any religious activities the team engages in are strictly voluntary, and that nonparticipation will not affect how an individual is treated by coaches or the rest of the team.

When Brian Trotter, a high school athletic director in Pennsylvania, heard from the parent of a tennis player at his school that her coach was talking about religion with the team, he called the coach in to discuss which “hat” he was wearing when he was with his athletes. “I knew that his job outside of school was working with a Christian ministry group that targeted young people, so I just told him he had to realize that when he was serving as our tennis coach, his responsibilities were different,” Trotter says. “I explained it like this: ‘It’s not that I’m opposed to what you’re saying, but this isn’t the venue for you to do that.'”

Trotter says he was careful not to criticize or challenge the coach’s personal beliefs, and that was a key to making the coach receptive to his message. “Most people who speak up about their religious beliefs take them very seriously, and I didn’t want him to feel that I was in any way passing judgment on his faith,” Trotter explains. “The conversation wasn’t confrontational at all, and that made a sensitive subject a lot easier to talk about. He understood where I was coming from.”

If an athlete ever does have a complaint, it’s equally important that there are channels available for him or her to come forward. At Clemson University, for example, the football program is led by the openly religious Bowden, but Athletic Director Terry Don Phillips says if players were ever to have concerns about discrimination or were uncomfortable with something happening in the program, they would know how to make themselves heard.

“We have an environment here where people are open-minded, and if somebody doesn’t feel good about something, there are go-to people on our staff,” Phillips says. “The assistant coaches have very good relationships with our players, and we have a sports psychologist, as well as someone who has oversight of student-athlete welfare. The kids can visit any of those people if they want to talk to someone.”

In addition, the right environment throughout the athletic department can go a long way toward opening lines of communication on such a sensitive subject. “I believe if someone had a problem they wanted to discuss, they wouldn’t hesitate to come through my door and even confront me about it,” Phillips continues. “We really have an environment where kids are not threatened by this issue.”

By observing a coach’s interaction with his or her team, you can decide for yourself whether the atmosphere is one where all athletes feel welcome. Washington’s Head Men’s Basketball Coach, Lorenzo Romar, is also very publicly religious, but Turner says the coach is careful not to foist his personal beliefs on his athletes. “I’m around the basketball team a lot,” Turner says, “and I have not seen or sensed anything in the way he runs his program that suggests he is crossing the line.”

Turner says he frequently discusses the athletic department’s core values with his coaches, and that helps to create constant awareness of the type of environment they should be promoting. “Demonstrating respect for all people and providing exemplary leadership are ideals that are right in our mission statement,” he says. “We talk about our role and our mission regularly, so our staff is well aware that we expect them to create an open and welcoming environment.”

Ultimately, Turner believes the best way to advise coaches to reconcile their personal spirituality with their professional responsibility is to encourage them to use actions, not words. “The best examples that I’ve seen of striking a balance between religion and coaching are the people who speak their faith through the way they live rather than what they say,” Turner says. “Coaches who find that balance don’t have to speak about their commitments and faith. They live them, and it’s clearly evident in the way they treat people and in every decision they make.”

Sidebar: WHY SEPARATE?
In a country as religious as the United States, it may seem strange that our founding document expressly says that church and state should be separate. Why was this a priority for the founding fathers?

In their book The Godless Constitution, Cornell University professors Isaac Kramnick and R. Lawrence Moore argue that it was the founders’ reverence for religion that convinced them it should always be a private matter, not a government issue. “Political wisdom changes overnight as Americans change their president every four years and their legislature every two years,” they write. “If religion were to throw itself into this fray, where could it take firm hold in the ebb and flow of human opinions? Where would be that respect which belongs to it, amid the struggles of faction?”

In other words, early Americans believed that matters of religion were too important to be entrusted to the political realm. They felt the only way to protect religious freedom for all was to remove religion entirely from the uncertain and corruptible world of government.

Thomas Jefferson, author of the Declaration of Independence and the third president of the United States, was one of his generation’s most eloquent defenders of church-state separation. In 1802, he summed up the importance of a secular constitution with these words: “Believing … that religion is a matter which lies solely between man and his God, that he owes account to none other for his faith or his worship, that the legislative powers of government reach actions only, and not opinions, I contemplate with sovereign reverence that act of the whole American people which declared that their legislature should ‘make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof,’ thus building a wall of separation between church and state.”

Sidebar: A MOMENT
The major problem with collective team prayer is that it may include religious sentiments not shared by all the athletes. Plus, if a coach at a public institution is seen as leading or endorsing the prayer, it violates the constitutional separation of church and state.

One simple solution that allows people of all faiths or no faith to feel included in a pre-game prayer is to observe a moment of silence. The entire team, coach included, can share in the same ritual, while each individual uses the time in a way that he or she finds meaningful.

“Most legal scholars would agree that a moment of silence is permissible if it’s handled correctly,” says Alan Brownstein, Professor of Constitutional Law at the University of California-Davis. “A coach could call for a few minutes of silence and meditation, which could include prayer, where everyone in the locker room spends the time either praying or thinking about whatever they feel is appropriate before the game. In that case, the coach isn’t supplying any content to the activity.”

Todd Turner, Athletic Director at the University of Washington, says a moment of silence can offer the same benefits as a collective team prayer. “It can definitely be a unifying moment for a team,” he says. “When teammates join hands and spend a moment in silence together, that act of joining hands is probably as important as anything that might be said. In that moment of quietness, everyone is focused on the team and being together.”


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Managing Criticism

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This article provided by Coaches Network

Whether you like it or not, as a coach, you are on a pedestal for everyone to see. Anyone watching sees your stumbles and mistakes. And increasingly, stakeholders will call you out for any miscues.

In the middle of a busy season with practices and games consuming all your time, it can be tempting to ignore criticism that comes your way and hope that it will eventually disappear. But that tactic can easily backfire. Coaches suggest that it’s best to face feedback head-on, with a strategy for responding.

Chuck Wilcoxen, Head Men’s and Women’s Cross Country and Track and Field Coach at Principia College, says it’s important to engage with anyone who is delivering criticism or negative feedback. “If someone is upset about something, sooner or later they have to get it out,” he says. “If they sit on it, it’s going to simmer longer, and that just makes them more upset, which isn’t good for you, and isn’t good for the program. Even if it’s the same parent again and again with things you don’t think are justified, you have to let the person be heard.”

And the number-one item of a good strategy is to always stay calm, even if the other person is not. “Getting mad is not productive whatsoever,” says Jim Long, Head Baseball Coach at Brenham (Texas) High School. “That can make you look worse than the person complaining, which you never want. You need to remember you’re dealing with people who, because of their emotions, are making ignorant decisions. When I think of it that way, these situations are a lot easier to deal with.”

For Karen Kunka, Head Volleyball Coach at North Central College, staying calm requires taking a step back. Rather than responding immediately, she sets up a meeting to discuss the complaint. “If you let a discussion go on in the heat of the moment, you can get backed into a corner with someone screaming at you,” she says.

Instead, Kunka likes to gain perspective on the situation and think through her solution, rather than being forced into a snap decision or appearing defensive. “You have to allow yourself to pull back from a situation a little bit,” she says. “I also like to have someone I can run things past, like an assistant coach, before I react.”

Wilcoxen takes a similar approach. “Don’t react when you’re having the initial discussion,” he says. “Hash things out by yourself when you’re not dealing with any feelings of defensiveness or anger. With a little perspective, you may even find that the person has an excellent point that will make you a better coach.”

In fact, Wilcoxen tries to learn from all feedback. “What may at first seem to be a petty complaint can actually be very valuable information,” he says. “For example, parents know things about their kids that coaches don’t. The first couple years I coached I was probably a little defensive, but the more open I was to others’ opinions, the more I learned. If a kid tells me they’re feeling great, and I find out from the parents that they’re not, that’s good information.”


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Ideas for Parent Meeting

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The purpose of this post is not to say that you should run your Parent’s Meeting like this, but just to stimulate your thinking on how you can make your Parent’s Meeting as productive as possible.  It is more than a task to complete on the season checklist, it is an important opportunity to build positive rapport with your athlete’s parents!

The coach/parent relationship is extremely important, and as we all know, is one of the most difficult parts of coaching. I believe that holding a pre-season parent meeting will help to communicate with the parents in mass in a non-confrontational way. After our meeting, we open the practice to parents to watch.

The agenda that I have used for our parent meetings is outlined below

We start off with this quote from Lou Holtz:

I don’t think coaching is about making a million dollars a year. I don’t think coaching is about winning championships. I don’t think coaching is about going to a great school. I think coaching is about helping young people have a chance to succeed. There is no more awesome responsibility than that. I think one of the greatest honors a person can have is to be called ‘Coach.’ ”
—Lou Holtz

WE ALREADY ARE AT A GREAT SCHOOL!

1. Thank you for your attendance and for dealing with our practice times throughout the year—there are seven different practice times and game schedules being played right now.
2. Coaching Staff and attendance for information purpose.
3. Goal #1 for coaches: Establish a life—long relationship with each participant that cannot be broken.
Goal #2 for coaches: Assist in the development of all aspects of the life of the participants. Goal #1 for participants: Have the most rewarding season of his/her career to this point in our sport.
4. Cost to parents

5. Relationship of coach and parents
A. I look forward to a friendly, professional, and productive relationship with every parent.
B. Roles—Play, coach, officiate, support (Each of us should stick to one of those roles ONLY)
C. Please be supportive—“Listen to your coaches about (volleyball, soccer, football, baseball, whatever the sport is)” is the best advice to give. I have an entire program to consider. Over 100 students in grades 5-12.
D. Notebook—please look at your son/daughter’s team notebook that we provide him/her.  It will helps you understand our philosophy
E. Playing time—Coach’s decision and is not negotiable
F. Role in program or program level (varsity, JV, Freshman)—Coach’s decision and not negotiable
G. Strategy—Coach’s decision and not negotiable
H. I will not discuss other players with parents
I. I will talk to you about any other area that can help your son
J. Please support our priorities—again, please see your player’s notebooks.  We put their personal spirituality, family, health, citizenship, and academics as higher priorities than basketball.  I would rather have him miss practice for a Dr. appointment than to miss a class.  Of course, I would prefer he not miss class or practice, but if a choice has to be made, he would be excused from practice as long as I know ahead of time so that I am not surprised.  I hope it doesn’t happen, but I realize there are emergencies where communication with a coach is not a priority.
K. We ask that you follow the chain of command on all concerns. If your son has a concern that he shares with you, please ask him if he has spoken to the coach about it. We would appreciate your son extending us the courtesy of seeing the coach he has a concern with first. I am not perfect, but I am the coach and it is my job to deal with any problem that affects the program. I would appreciate hearing concerns directly from your son.  I do my best to be someone who is worthy of their trust and respect to be able to approach when there is an issue.
L. Parents may attend practice. However, it is the opinion of our coaching staff that it is not in the best interest of your son to do so.  We feel it puts undo pressure on him, but each child is different in that regard.

6. Administrative Items Web Site Waiver, Prospect Sheet, Code of Conduct
7. Web Site, E-mails
8. Question and answer
9. Food for away games
Varsity and Junior Varsity (Need volunteers)
Freshman Games (Need volunteers)
Other ideas–signs, buttons, pictures, having the team over to your home Please follow our priorities if the players are at your home
10. Locker room tour for parents and watch practice if you are able.


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Positioned for Parents

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This article provided by Coaches Network

For high school coaches today, one key to success is learning to work well with athletes’ parents. A recent survey found that nearly two-thirds of coaches polled said they had either quit or considered quitting because of parents. How do veteran coaches tackle the challenge? Here are some suggestions:

Keep calm in the storm
It’s easy for parents to become emotional about their children, so it’s critical that the coach does the opposite and remains calm. Even if a parent is totally out of line, the coach must take the high road. One coach surveyed wrote that he regretted raising his voice with a parent.

“I should have swallowed my tongue and turned the other cheek,” he wrote. “I raised my voice in the exchange and only allowed a greater divide to exist. It hindered my relationship with that player for the rest of his career, which I regret.”

Another coach relayed how he was able to maintain composure during a baseball game. “A parent came to me in the dugout … and began yelling loud enough for everyone on and off the field to hear. I told her that was not the appropriate time to discuss an issue and if she wanted to talk we could do so after the game.”

Help your athletes navigate
Nearly two-thirds of coaches said players had complained about their own parents’ conduct. So there may come a time when you need to take action on behalf of your player. And sometimes other parents can be your ally.

“I had a player who wanted my help with her father’s behavior,” wrote one coach. “I was able to recruit some help from other parents and to get the problem under control.”

In other cases, empowering your player to talk to their parent themselves can have a positive outcome. When doing that, it’s still important to be a support system for the athlete:

“[I] allowed the player to speak with their parent at halftime per their request; I assured the player it was OK and not to worry about their parents’ action. I tried to take all the pressure off the kid … and I explained that my relationship with [them] had nothing to do with their parents,” wrote one coach.

Be open to change
While nearly 80 percent of coaches said that they had not changed their coaching style in response to parental complaints, some admitted that they had made some minor adjustments:

“It was not so much a change in coaching style as it was point of view,” one coach wrote. “Discussions with parents are part of growing as a coach. You must always apply lessons learned if you intend to progress.”

Sometimes, a parent will go to extreme measures, such as threatening to transfer their child to another school. One coach who faced such a situation realized that they needed to redirect the conversation.

“After a parent conference, I suggested we put our differences aside and focus on the student-athlete,” he wrote.


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“I Just Don’t Read”

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This article was written and contributed by Scott Rosberg

Today’s post comes from a comment I have heard various coaches make through the years – “I just don’t read.” As an English teacher for 18 years, reading was obviously a very big part of my job, and it was a huge part of what I was trying to get my students to do. As teachers, we expect our students to read the various assignments that we give them. No matter the subject, reading is extremely important to the success of our students.

Reading is also extremely important to my success as a teacher. Of course, I need to know what I am teaching, but I also should know a variety of material that would support or be in the realm of what I am teaching, too. It also helps to have a general knowledge of various elements in the world. Obviously, the more I know, the better prepared I can be. Reading is one of the best ways for me to prepare to be my best.

This same concept is important in athletics, as well, especially when it comes to coaches. There are a variety of ways for coaches to improve themselves. Live coaching clinics & workshops, DVD’s, online video clinics, meetings with mentor coaches, online magazines, blogs, podcasts, YouTube videos, downloadable PDF’s, newsletters, print magazines, books, eBooks, and booklets are all ways to learn more about one’s sport, coaching & athletics in general, or any other self-improvement topic that could help one become a better coach. Looking at that list, there is a wide variety of media that a coach can turn to learn more about his/her craft.

Each of those methods of learning has value, merit, and worth. I always suggest to coaches that they open themselves up to as many methods as possible to improve at their craft. Reading is one of those methods, and I would argue that it is quite possibly the most important of those methods because there are more chances to read than any other medium out there.

However, when talking with coaches about various written materials that I think they should read, I sometimes hear from them, “You know, I just don’t read all that much.” While I don’t say it, some of my first thoughts are usually, “Seriously?! Why not? Do you want to be the best you can be? What if your players said to you, ‘I just don’t ________.’ about something that you tell them they need to do to help be the best they can be?”

I realize that coaches come in all varieties, and some just aren’t as into developing themselves as much as others. Some are just helping out a team in a rec league to offer the head coach a little help, so they are not necessarily focused on getting too much information on coaching. However, I would submit that these people are prime candidates to learn a bit more on the topic of coaching and coaching their sport, so they can maximize their chances for helping the kids have a great experience.

Other coaches fall into the realm of “long-time veteran” coach. They sometimes feel they have all the knowledge they need, so there is no need for them to read more on coaching or on their sport. Well, I fall into that category of “long-time veteran” coach, and I have always read as much as I could on coaching and on my sports. There is always more to learn, and it is also enjoyable reading about something for which I have a passion.

In between the novice and the long-time veteran are the majority of coaches – coaches who have been coaching for a few years, but who still have a lot to learn. These are the coaches that are the most disappointing when I hear any of them say they “just don’t read,” as their reason for not reading certain books that could help them become better coaches. They have the most to gain and to give, so increasing their knowledge is critical to their success and their ability to help their players and teams develop.

Now, it could be that they just don’t read anything, not just coaching materials. Some people have struggled to read their whole lives or they just were never into reading, and so they just didn’t do it much. For some people, reading may be difficult, so they choose not to do it. Or they may feel they are too busy to read. However, for anyone who struggles with these situations, there are other ways to “read” materials to help them.

Audiobooks are a great way to “read” a book. You get the same information, you often get it in the writer’s voice, and you can do it while doing something else, so you don’t have to set aside extra time for it. Podcasts are another great medium to get a lot of information to help you improve. While podcasts are not exactly like audiobooks, many podcasts are basically blog posts or some other form of the written word conveyed through audio. But even for those that aren’t, there is often a lot of great information for listeners to consume that will help them improve in whatever they desire. I have been listening to podcasts for two years, and many have really helped me in my coaching and other areas of my life.

Webinars and online courses are also great formats to learn a lot of information packed into a fairly short amount of time. So are online videos. While there is not much in the way of reading in the video format, you can get a lot of information, and you can see it put into action. Video is a great way for coaches who don’t read much to still pick up a lot of great information.

No matter what method you use to “read,” make sure you do so. While I prefer actually reading a book, booklet, article, post (like this one!), etc. over most other formats, any method of consuming helpful information will give you new ideas and strategies to help you improve your coaching. Please don’t use the excuse that “I just don’t read” to limit yourself from becoming a better coach. Find some way that works for you, carve out the time necessary to do it, and then get ready for new levels of growth and development.

Then again, if you have read this far in this article, you are probably already doing those things. I guess it’s time for me to do a podcast and a video of this post for all those people that “just don’t read”!

I would love to hear your thoughts on these ideas in the Comments section below or on the Coach with Character Facebook page. My next post will focus on some different books, blogs, podcasts, etc. for you to consider “reading” this summer.

About the Author of this Article

Scott Rosberg has been a coach (basketball, soccer, & football) at the high school level for 30 years, an English teacher for 18 years, and an athletic director for 12 years. He has published seven booklets on coaching and youth/school athletics, two books of inspirational messages and quotes for graduates, and a newsletter for athletic directors and coaches. He also speaks to schools, teams, and businesses on a variety of team-building, leadership, and coaching topics. Scott has a blog and a variety of other materials about coaching and athletic topics on his website – www.coachwithcharacter.com. He can be reached by email at [email protected].

Scott is also a member of the Proactive Coaching speaking team. Proactive Coaching is dedicated to helping organizations create character and education-based team cultures, while providing a blueprint for team leadership. They help develop confident, tough-minded, fearless competitors and train coaches and leaders for excellence and significance. Proactive Coaching can be found on the web at www.proactivecoaching.info. Also, you can join the 200,000+ people who have “Liked” Proactive Coaching’s Facebook page at www.facebook.com/proactivecoach. Scott can also be reached through Proactive Coaching at [email protected]


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